#981 Author:  Kaki Maheedhar Member Level: Diamond Member Rank: 3 Date: 27/Dec/2010 Rating:  Points: 3 |
Hi Harika,
I think this caste thing is going to end with this generation as most of the present youth do not believe in caste marriages. It is only to keep thir parents happy they are still following this custom.
I think and I hope this caste system ends with this generation.
I also feel that the reservations also play a key role in keeping the caste system alive. I personally didnot know my caste until I had to fill the reservations at the +2 level.
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#983 Author:  harika naidu Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 19 Date: 27/Dec/2010 Rating: Points: 3 |
yes the present generation does not believe in caste thing but still there a lot to be done to get out of this social stigma to completely uproot itself.
i too did not know my caste until i stepped in college.
I personally feel that when we choose our friends, colleagues and everyone around us without caste then there is no need of considering caste especially for marriage.
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#991 Author:  K MOHAN Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 5 Date: 28/Dec/2010 Rating: Points: 3 |
Good post.
Marriage is an important event in our life and its always decided by our elders. And if elders are deciding the factor then all issues come into the fore. Caste is always comes first in deciding the alliance. Its not new and it is continuing since ages unknown to us. But i strongly feel such barriers must be removed now. We have changed and our world has changed and new arrangements must be accorded welcome.
K Mohan
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#1142 Author:  T VENKATA SAI RAM Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 10 Date: 08/Mar/2011 Rating: Points: 2 |
There comes a joke like this.
Parents used to advice their sons like this:
1970:Marry a girl of our caste and same village.
1980:Marry a girl of our caste.
1990:Marry a girl of our religion.
2000:Marry a girl of our country.
2010:Marry a girl!!!
Thanks & Regards
Venkata Sai Ram T .
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| #1230 Author: phani kumar Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 25 Date: 31/Mar/2011 Rating: Points: 6 |
Caste will still be a barrier for the next few generations.
Once there wer only people who were nomadic and barbarian. people just moved places for food and water. later shelter came into picture. Some people who wished to discuss things and communicate like us formed groups and started living like community. Then few started noting down points they turned to one group. few interested in dance and songs they moved one. few started building with rocks..,
what i am trying to say is all these people have generated there own set of rules. which doesn't match with others.
Every persons behaviour starts with and develops into attitude with the environment we live, which is set by those rules.
The people who created those rules lived their life and left others to suffer.
Our elders who don't want to take a step left the same customs prevail because they wished to live a simple and easy through life as their parents.
The same will continue with us. because there is a great deal of strength required for acting than just discussing.
In india there is one rule that prevails for eras if one comes out ten pulls back. so these customs doesn't change.
Parents wish their kids to live in a family close to their family custom as it suits their behaviour.
The same thing childrens are doing they are just matching their interests related to their attitude. What's the difference in both.
The only thing that matters is that when we are in school we are given uniform to avoid descrimination. when we are out we start turning to our community. during this conversion we pass through college or love life where we exactly don't will be in confusion. Parents go with the same deal. they try to avoid some wrong step in the name of caste.
I am just trying to say the fact please dont take things wrong. I too love love stories. Only thing is I like love story but I dont like those Who just feed their minds thinking they are in love. They just go sick thinking they are in love.
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#1233 Author:  Subba Raju Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 12 Date: 01/Apr/2011 Rating: Points: 4 |
Hi friend
Yes, caste is treated as main thing for marriage. This is because of some reasons say each caste will have their own sentiments and follow some customs. Friends need not participate in family affairs.
So caste is not necessary for friendship. But when it comes to marriage, it is a relationship between two people and also between two families. Though at the time of love people will accept others customs, but after sometime say after 5 years, definitely they will feel oh, why I have come into this family.
Their customs are totally different.
That is the reason why we will see caste.
Ofcourse, these are just my feelings only.
Subba Raju, MV
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| #1243 Author: harika naidu Member Level: Gold Member Rank: 19 Date: 04/Apr/2011 Rating: Points: 4 |
I feel that caste as a parameter for marriage but should not be the sole criterion for marriage because in todays generation much of our traditions have changed and not the same many years before.
If you take a person born in abroad and brought up with that culture then if he/she must marry someone of the same caste only in India, then is it predictable that they may have same tastes and culture?
I think that if it is a case of tastes of an individual then they must be given full right to choose irrespective of caste
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| #1249 Author: phani kumar Member Level: Silver Member Rank: 25 Date: 05/Apr/2011 Rating: Points: 2 |
If it comes only with the taste of those two couples 100% right is given. But people are supposed to adjust with the families.
If the families are non-orthodox then caste will not be a criteria.
If they are orthodox then god only can help the couple.
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#1258 Author:  RAJESH.R Member Level: Bronze Member Rank: 56 Date: 19/Apr/2011 Rating: Points: 3 |
Hai Harika,
I think marriage is the important thing of every human being because after marriage his/her life is totally changed. Cast is not a problem mutual understanding is the foundation of marriage life. In older age people did not allow her children to marriage another caste. But in the 20th century youngsters are not thinking caste. They are well educated people and marriage with their girl friends. It is not a problem.
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